Communication
Daily or frequent check ins
Texting
Phone / video calls
In-person visits
Discussing work and hobbies
Discussing family, partners, relationships
Discussing politics and current events
Ability to express disagreements or hurt feelings
Ability to address and resolve conflict
Relationship meetings
Radical honesty
Companionship
Playfulness
Shared hobbies, activities or interests
Intellectual & philosophical discussions
Friendship
Collaborative
Working together
Teaching
Projects
Creativity
Organizations
Associations
Religious / Spiritual
Shared ritual / prayer
Shared beliefs
Discussions
Ceremony & Traditions
Divination
Professional & Work
Combining social, collaborative & financial
Colleagues
Partners
Co-operatives
Technology
Sharing passwords
Sharing accounts
Real-time location sharing
Accessing computers / phones without asking
Partnership
Shared goals / values
Routine
Embracing change in one another
Consistency
Reliability
Legal
Marriage
Civil partnership
Business partner
Adoption
Power of attorney
Executor of will
Financial
Shared bank account(s)
Mutual contributions to vacation / activity fund
Co-ownership of property
Financial support
Large gifts
Complete financial integration
Quality Time
Regularly scheduled time together
Date nights
Spending the night
Sharing activities
Parallel play
Vacations together
Domestic
Sharing a dwelling/home
Sharing a sleeping space
Cooking together
Sharing meals
Chores & Routines
Co-Caregivers
Family (sick, elderly)
Animals
Plants
Children (own or from other partnerships)
Long-term commitment (for the above)
Emotional Intimacy
Expressing happiness and joy
Active listening
Being vulnerable
Having difficult conversations
Discussing values / beliefs
Sharing stories about past
Sharing hopes for future
Knowing personal likes & dislikes
Sharing about mental health challenges
Expressing affection
Physical Intimacy
Body contact
Hugs
Massages
Dance
Cuddles
Hand-holding
Kissing
Nudity
Co-Sleeping
Public displays of affection
Emotional Support
Offering support in hard times
Being asked for advice
Confidante
Empathy
Insecurities & reassurances
Supporting mental health work
Romantic
Emotional attraction
Feelings of being in love
Unmotivated euphoria
Intense focus
Caregiving
General needs / favours
Emergencies
Health / illness
Sponsorship
Age
End of life / death
Disability
Social Integration
Meeting metamors (partners)
Meeting friends
Meeting parents/siblings/extended family
Meeting children
Spending time as a couple with friends/family
Positive relationships with metamors
Serving as +1 for social events
Presenting as a couple in public settings
Presenting as a couple on social media
Presenting as a couple in professional settings
Joint vacations with family/metamors
Sexual
Mutual masturbation
Orgasms
Oral sex
Manual sex (fingering & hand jobs)
Penetrative vaginal sex
Penetrative anal sex
Using sex toys
Kinky stuff
Threesomes or group sex
Frequency, Safer sex practices & STI testing
Autonomy
Alone time
Balance of time together and apart
Support to pursue independent interests
Maintaining independent friendships
Being sexually exclusive with each other
Being romantically / emotionally exclusive
Equal distribution of relationship power
Commitment
Having a key
Prioritisation over other partners
Relationship labels
Planning for future
Expectation of long term involvement
Commitment to working through challenges
Commitment to relationship maintenance
Pregnancy/children together
Things to Discuss
Important boundaries
Accountability
Security & privacy
Mental health & trauma
Relationship duration
Living preferences
Career importance